I was told that I am one and have been looking into it. Apparently, it might be rare in the gay community but so many people post about it that I'm unsure. Is it rare in the straight, non-BDSM world? How rare?

For context, it's really important that my partner's pussy is worshipped with every part of my body and that she cums like the Queen she is. It's a rule that she needs to cum at least twice before I'm allowed to cum once or else she gets to "punish" me. But, she needs to give me heavy eye contact and call me Daddy or else she doesn't get anything.

That's a service top right? Some definitions say that there is no domination involved, but isn't that what a top is?

Please enlighten me. I'm new to this.

EDIT - Someone pointed this out to me and I wanted to add that I get that a woman isn't going to cum every time or even be multi-orgasmic. It's more about the "game" if that makes sense.