I'm 18, and ever since I can remember growing up I’ve noticed that when you’re out doing errands guys, especially older ones, don’t really bother hiding their ogling and stares anymore these days. No matter the age, race or height somebody always has to glance or stare at my butt when I go out. Lately I’ve told myself that it’s not usually done with bad intentions — just a natural, instinctive response that I can’t hold against guys

That said, some guys can be pretty shameless, staring or even drooling. I've caught a few taking photos of me from the corner of my eye, but I’ve never had the courage to call them out on it. It’s interesting to observe that it’s almost every guy, regardless of age. Young guys shopping with their moms, dads with their families, even grandpas at the bakery. I’ve even had guys follow me around the store, as if they just happen to be in the same aisle as me every time. Sometimes I admit I like to have a little fun with it, especially with guys who give off good vibes. I might intentionally cross their path or “coincidentally” reach for items on the lower shelves just to see their reaction.

When I’m out with my mom, she often gets annoyed when a guy behind us in line stares at my butt. She wants to say something, but I usually tell her to calm down. At the end of the day, there’s not much that can be done. I don’t really blame the guys — sometimes I even find it flattering or cute. It’s not just in stores, either. Teachers aren’t always subtle about it, but that’s a whole other story

Growing up I always hated the stares guys give you. Made me feel weak and vulnerable and like an object. Now I take it as a compliment. Am I viewing all of this correctly or incorrectly? What’s your take?