I'm a 19M currently dating a girl. I'm a dom, but I prefer slow, romantic, and passionate sex. I'm really interested in trying a rimjob, but I don’t know how to bring up the topic. I’m not into femdom and don’t want to give her the wrong impression, but I fear she might think I’m into it.

For those wondering what I’m talking about, I had a bad experience in the past. A girl I dated used to share her fantasies, and I would act them out for her, even though I didn’t enjoy them. She assumed I was super open-minded, and I kept going along with her fantasies. The truth is, I struggle to say no and get convinced easily. I know this isn’t healthy, and I’m working on changing.

How do I tell my current partner I’m into rimjobs without making it seem like I’m into femdom?