I think it’s more because while Reddit , the nsfw side can be kinky as hell and make you think that everyone and every couple is having outrageously kinky sex ten times a day the reality is a lot of the posters are younger men who are very sexually repressed . You see it in all the questions like ‘is it gay if my wife fingers me’ ‘is it gay for my girlfriend to peg me’ ‘is it gay to have a MfM threesome’ . They’re so unaware of sexuality and what their peers are really doing and have been fed nonsense by adults in their lives that were my age or my parents age about masculinity and sexuality . Men don’t cry. Men don’t show emotions. Men don’t want to feel pleasure or explore

Meanwhile in open lifestyle and kink sites you’ll see that a majority of men that identify as straight are completely open to male on male contact whether light touching or receiving oral all the way through those comfortable to give oral and participate in anal with another man .

Drew and I (hitting 50) have been in an open lifestyle for a number of years and it’s funny to see how many people (men) put straight on their profile that always inevitably, save for a slim minority , ask if Drew would be open to playing with them . And I personally hate labels and don’t have issues with any of that but if these repressed kids knew that their fathers were finally coming out into the world of feeling emotion and feeling pleasure even from the same sex after being beat down about it for years they’d be shocked

I still see it a lot with younger men , so worried about being ‘alpha’ whatever that is, and so concerned with not coming off as less than a man however that is represented in their eyes when the reality is people are moving on and moving on quickly behind closed doors to discover that our time on this planet is limited and there’s nothing wrong with exploration and feeling