So, I'm going to explain some of my verbiage in title question and then we'll dive into the actual question and discussion. By heterosexual presenting couples I simply mean couples that are male female, trans and included, (T)Male and (T)Female or any combination of such. Regardless of if both parties are bi, or pan, or demi, whatever they may be, this question isn't just for Straight people but anyone who could find themselves in a relationship that from an outside perspective looks straight.

So, the question itself, are Sides more common in these types of relationships than we think? And would you be okay with your partner being a side?

I think sides are more common than known amoung straight males but they haven't been introduced to the term or idea to understand it about themselves. I recently was talking with a heterosexual buddy of mine when I found out they dabble in aesexual forums and communities because although they are attracted to women, they do not necessarily enjoy sex. I presented the term Side to them and it seemed like all the pieces started to click and fall into place.

For those who don't know, the term side is a sexual position in the gay community. We use top and bottom to describe pitcher and catcher, verse meaning someone who enjoys both. But a side, is one who does not enjoy or participate in giving or receiving penetration. They don't penetrate their partner and don't let their partner penetrate them, but still enjoy the intimacy, sexual, and physical pleasures of other forms such as orally, and otherwise exploring eachothers bodies.

I immediately remembered seeing a post about someone who's significant other prefers hand jobs over PIV sex, then started really thinking about how often I see post of similar standings. My friend who's attention I brought this to also said now that he understands, he thinks more straight men just write it off as "low sex drive" instead of learning to understand their interests.

So where do you guys stand on this? Is there a larger community of straight presenting sides than we think? Are you dating a side a side who didn't know they were one? Possibly even a side yourself but didn't know there was a word for it?