I'm not superficial but some folks feel the need to have superficial things in a serious LTR. So, I'm just gonna give it to ya'll straight. I have crippling anxiety and un-godly depression. Introverted. Not a lot (Approx. 50 K Per Annum) of dough. 6' O" and 275 pounds.

Don't be too hard on me, lol but give it to me.

Because, I heard that dudes have the opposite conundrum than me. Can't get casual arrangements un-less serious LTR with someone.

Serious LTR is the only way for me. Hooking-up is such a soul-destroyer.

Tips, ya'll?

Oh, forgot to mention, exes keep bothering me for hook-ups. 4 to be exact. 2 are single, 1 engaged and another one is even married and nope, she's not in a poly-relation/open-marriage. She said that she wanted one last hurrah with me because she's trying to get a surrogate by Christmas.

I'm not trying to be an accessory to cheating. Yucky.

The two single exes. Nope, they don't wanna start over with me/get in to serious LTR with me.

They said they were just looking to fcuk until December before trying to find a new man in January respectively. Soul-destroying. Why just casual sex from me but not a legit serious LTR?

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TL; DR - - - - > Folks just want casual sex from me but I want the real deal, meaning, serious LTR. What should I do and what gives?