Something me and my partner do all the time is this thing where we wrestle and attempt to dominate each other to see who will be in charge during the fuck. It's so sexy to me knowing that either a) my weakness at the moment will make me the bitch or b) being strong enough to take what I want. Some people describe this as being a form of BDSM and I see what they mean 100% but I guess my brain doesn't register it as that for some reason.

In other words I like fighting for my ability to tell my partner what to do. If I can't overcome her I dont have the right to tell her what to do. We are pretty evenly matched; she's very strong and that's what I looked for in a soul mate. Don't get me wrong; I'm deeply sensitive and sentimental but I also like a good [consensual, nontoxic] fight. There's something very sexual and exciting knowing that the strongest one becomes the leader in the bedroom and the one who calls "uncle" is gonna take it and like it. I'm not "manly" per se, I just like power dynamics in the bedroom.

I want to make it clear that I deeply respect and validate my partner no matter what. As said, I recognize her as very strong both physically and emotionally and like to prove that I'm also strong. Can anyone relate?