Three ways.

1- Paid lifestyle sites that have review / cert features like SLS. If a guy doesn’t have at least 3-4 amazing reviews from couples / women they were with then we don’t even engage in the discussion

2- Reddit accounts that have a ton of karma, are verified and post content in lifestyle subs and tag others they’ve met . That proof of experience by tagging others is again , crucial. Reddit is easily the biggest site for fakes and time wasters so ignore the low effort profiles and focus on those that post their adventures as proof

3- content creators (OF and Fansly) that are in the lifestyle and say they’re open to meeting. It can sometimes be hard to discern who is just trying to get views / sales, who actually is in the lifestyle and who is just pretending their partner is another man / woman but by far the better experiences have been with these guys - they have experience, they have proof, they test often, they travel so distance isn’t an issue and most are fine not filming if that’s not your interest. By far the easiest and usually the best experiences

There are too many amazing options out there to ever have to settle for conversations with blank or low effort profiles that make promises they won’t keep or risk bad sex .

If you ignore the people the don’t have proof in favor of those that do you’ll find overwhelming success and so much less wasted time in the rabbit hole of pic collectors and fakes. You will have a ton - literally hundreds of low effort profile types reaching out with claims of being real or experienced —- ignore them all. Just focus on those that put the effort into having what you need and are looking for on the profile whether it’s Reddit or Twitter or lifestyle apps

We don’t ask for pics nor send them. It’s all on our profiles and the same should be on theirs or we won’t reach out / respond .

Conversations are super short - what are you into / not into, fantasies , dealbreakers etc . If we’re on the same page great, if not, move on immediately . Then we swap most recent test results and discuss getting a new one prior to playing along with talking schedules . If they can’t meet within 10 days we delete . The people who actually want to meet and fuck will have their stuff together and won’t have excuses as to why they don’t have the most necessary information available and ready