Ya'll know the answer?

I want to be on the look-out for the signs/green-flags.

Based on past-experiences. Both didn't work-out due to myriads of un-related reasons.

Which is closer the real thing? First ex. We clicked right away. Felt comfortable with each-other within minutes aster meeting each-other like we've known each-other for years instead. We would talk, banter, confide, joke with each-other for hours on end. Sex was good and not awkward but not out-of-this-world.

Second ex, awkward as heck. Not much in-common. One thing though, my heart would go pitter-patter everytime she was in-sight. Butterflies in my belly. Goose-bumps. Cold-sweats. Felt like I was dying but it was thrilling and addicting. The sex. Also, awkward as heck but I did feel something like I've never felt before or even since.

I've talked to my friends. A lot of them said that the most loving and long-lasting couples they've met have always been best-friends. Almost-perfect.

A few others said that the best kind of love is the love where The SO makes you feel something out-of-this-world even-though the relationship and SO come with boat-load of faults.

Ya'll. Which kind of love should I thrive and strive for? I really need to know. Thanks and goodday ya'll 🤠

TL; DR - - - - > Which love is better and less-toxic in the long run? Which kind of love should I be on the look-out for? First, instant besties and no awkwardness which is very comforting but no butterflies-in-stomach feeling. Very compatible in bed but not mind-blowing. Second, awkward and not very compatible in every aspect. The feeling is out of this world, un-like any other though. Pitter-patter and everything. Awkward sex but some-how addicting.