i don't want to take oral birth control because i’m afraid it will exacerbate already-existing health issues, but my bf told me he'd rather just not have sex than have to use a condom. so i'm asking three things:

• I've heard a ton of people say condoms suck. i get it. i don't like them either. but i've never heard someone genuinely say they'd just rather not have sex. is this a decently common take and i've just never heard it for some reason?

• i'm a little worried he's using it to pressure me into taking birth control. given the answer to the previous question, how likely is that?

• any recs for brands? i know sizing is a huge part of it, but i go to the store and am just thoroughly confused every time lol

edit because this blew up way more than i anticipated: i am fine not having PIV sex. that is not a dealbreaker. i’m not going to break up with him because he doesn’t want sex, and he’s totally entitled to not want sex and not have it for any reason. just wanted to crowdsource and see how common this issue was and how people resolved it!