The conversation I intended to spark with my question is the discrepancy between what people find attractive in private versus what they’re willing to embrace publicly due to societal standards. Specifically, I know a lot of men watch porn featuring curvy or fat women but I’m wondering if those same men would be willing to date a curvy/fat woman in real life.

For example, if you enjoy watching porn with curvy or fat women, do you find them equally attractive in real life? If you’ve ever dated a curvy woman, did you face societal judgment or pressure? How do societal standards influence your dating choices? Do you feel pressured to date women who fit a certain image?

Would love to hear your thoughts/experiences!

Edit: And for those who would do it do you think society will pressure you in a certain way? For example your friends or family might say an offensive comment about your partner (Even though we know that what everyone thinks it's not important but they will always comment)