I (35f) am finally getting to really enjoy a sex life with my (37m) husband. Super long story short we were in a dead bedroom for years and he thought he was asexual. Turns out, he was not he had desperately low T. Now he has been getting treatments for 6 months and our sex life has been growing incredibly fast.

One thing I’m having a hard time wrapping my head around is he loves to touch me without having an orgasm himself or really even being touched. If he goes 3 days without making me cum he gets antsy. Believe me I am NOT complaining haha. We’ve also been having sex fairly regularly and he wants for his own orgasm every week to two weeks. I’m ALWAYS down to give him his own as I love to make him cum. We are just taking things at his pace since he is on the meds for it.

He developed DVT in his leg and was at the ER a few days back. Obviously we aren’t being intimate or having sex because I love him and don’t want him to die. We haven’t done anything in 10 days now. Tonight he roughly kissed me and told me he needed to touch me tonight. That it wasn’t a want it was a need. Nor did I have a choice he was going to make me cum tonight. (It’s a dynamic we have fully consented to and enjoyed) I asked him if it was safe for me to give him an orgasm assuming he meant us both and he said he didn’t give a shit about his own he gets enough from my faces and noises but he needed to see and hear those. I mean don’t get me wrong I LOVE he feels that way but I also know if I was him I would be so out of mind horny if I made him cum and he didn’t return the favor lol. He does have medical clearance for this he just can’t have intercourse for a while longer.

Can I get a guy’s perspective here? I thought maybe it was something I was doing wrong but he swears not. He just gets enough from touching me and loves it so much. I mean he definitely lets me know when he’s in the mood to cum but 4/5 times it’s focused on me. He gets really really into it and is very obviously enjoying himself during but once I’m done he just wants to do aftercare for me.

Make it make sense??