I know a casual hookup will most likely be sidelined by an STD, but what about long term? I discovered I was given HPV (genital warts) by an ex. I had asked, like I do with all my sexual partners, if they had anything. I was told no. We also used protection every time. My heart sunk when I found out, and I’ve also come to learn I’m most likely one of those people who will have it for life/my body won’t clear it.

This has REALLY taken a toll on my dating life and I’m worried it’s not going to get better. I have dated one person since, and this was over 5 years ago. With the only person I dated, I disclosed everything, she did her own research, decided she wanted to have sex (with protection), all good. But when we stopped seeing each other I was…we’ll say yelled at…for giving it to her. This took another large toll as I hate that I would give something to someone else.

I haven’t even really tried since because I feel terrible, and also gross. I’m incredibly lonely as I’ve always been a relationship guy. I want to have a family and someone who loves me. I love sex. Besides this ‘blemish’ I feel like I’m at least moderately desirable.

So I’m curious, how much of a relationship deal breaker is this?