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Married for almost 26 years. My fantasy for the bulk of my life as been a FMF. Recently had my first MFM with my wife and it blew my mind. I loved every part of it. Not one second of jealousy during or after. It's now my number one fantasy and preference.
This all resonates with me. I identify as straight but have stated that I have no problems with the idea of male contact. The problem for me is the masculinity. Sounds crass, but I'd rather suck a dick in principle than kiss a guy. Something off-putting to me about that smell, taste, feel of the whisker rub etc. On the converse, I crave and adore femininity.
I feel the exact way about my wife. Not trying to convince or cast shade. But in my experience, it was so fulfilling to see my wife please another man. It was like the best porn. Also, it was so fun to see her pleasure and validation increased with the extra attention.
Haha. I love this reason. I'm not sure how much you jest but I actually think it could be a legitimate reason in a sense.
Interestingly enough, veterans of the swinger lifestyle say never fuck your friends unless you are willing to lose them. So maybe this is a good thing?
Dang. Sorry to hear that. Good on you for creating an atmosphere where she felt safe enough to back out.
Thanks for the response. Yes, many ways to keep a good distance from the other male if that's what you want. Even taking a rest and watching.
I'm sorry to hear that if it's something that you want. I presume it is. Deadbedrooms seem to be a huge challenge in a relationship.
That'll do it. Any idea on what your opinion would be if you were indeed married or in a committed relationship?
This is kind of what worked for me, too. I'm sure your wife appreciates this about you.
This is a very good reason not to. Thansk for the comment.
It can be a delicate matter, and you don't want your partner to think it's because there's something "wrong" with how things are.
Sounds cliche, but you are right. Communication prior, during, and after is probably the number one factor for success.
Yes. Do you also relive it later on when it's just you two again?
Love this. So, have you expanded into other dynamics, or do you stick with the MFMs?
Number 2 would be brutal. Sorry to hear it went that way. Mind sharing what she didn't enjoy about it? Did you enjoy it at the time?
That's hot, too. Also, it could be a first step to ease a person into it.
Sorry for your loss, and this truly would be a debilitating challenge.
Single males reaching out and offering to destroy your wife's pussy doesn't do it for you guys? Haha
I would guess that this is the number one fear or reason.
Can I ask, what are your thoughts? Does the idea appeal to you?
The struggle is real. For those who decide they want to try it, this is the largest obstacle in spite of there being an unlimited supply of single males willing.
All valid. Thanks for sharing (or not sharing in this case). Cheers.
This would be a more natural fit for a bi woman.
Fair point. Can I ask what your main reason for that is?
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The struggle is real. It's so counterintuitive to how most of us were raised. For what it's worth, my partner for a long time was against it or was worried it would wreck what we have. It took a long time to feel safe enough to take the leap.