My bf isn't physically attracted to me at all. He likes nothing about my body (recently reconfirmed that both in our couples therapy n outside that). He's not mean about it, our sex life is good, and it only really comes up when I bring it up myself.

I've known fron the start of the relationship he didnt find me attractive, but we started out as casual FWBs and things got serious from there-- I would not have started a relationship with someone who wasnt physically attracted to me on purpose but we both caught feelings HARD and now i want to be with this man forever 😤

He's wonderful to me, gives me all kind of compliments and gratitude (just nothing related to my appearance other than calling me cute sometimes), and our relationship is really good. He makes me happy. We have similar lifestyles and future goals and are really compatible-- super sexually compatible too, even w/o attraction on his part.

I still feel really awful about his lack of attraction though. I feel like if you love someone you should like looking at them, even if they're not conventionally attractive? But I brought that up in couples therapy and our therapist definitely made me feel like my expectations are way too high and that it's unreasonable to want my boyfriend to be attracted to my body 😵‍💫 I feel weird about it. Even my bf thought the therapist was being a little too black-and-white about it.

Am i focusing too hard on this as a problem since everything else with him is good? He loves me so much and does a great job of showing it every day. 🥺 Is this a thing I just need to let go? Is physical/sexual/aesthetic attraction not that important in a relationship? We have sex pretty often and he doesn't have any trouble getting into it or getting off, so it's not affecting our sex life very much/at all. 🤷‍♀️