I'm really happily married, my wife is like my BFF. There are no problems with our marriage other than I want to have sex a lot more often than she does, and maybe in ways she'll never have an interest in. I'm not one of those husbands who'll force or guilt his wife into it, nor beg for pity sex. As far as I'm concerned that's her choice.

BUT that doesn't mean I don't still want to feel the thrill of it, before I'm too old to even get it up. Have any of you strayed for the same reason - not unhappiness, not spite, not machismo... but just to experience that new sex feeling again? If you got away with it - or if you're STILL getting away with it - how did it make you feel? Do you have guilt? Relief? Happier than before in your marriage, or paranoid?

It's easy to say "That's wrong to do and you'll go to hell!!" but it's ALSO easy for those same people to spend their lives repressed and die with regret. We only get one shot in these bodies and I don't want to just wonder What if? until it's too late. I easily see myself waking up next to my wife in our 70s. But does that have to mean she's the LAST PERSON I'll ever, ever have sex with?