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I am not a parent (see the flair) but I might have kids in the future. I was talking to my husband and he said he wants to do a natural consequences parenting style, where the "punishment" for whatever happens as a result of this action or that action. However, all examples of natural consequences seem not so natural or seem like the only one being punished is me. For example, if a teenager didn't do the dishes yesterday, she now has to do the dishes today, just more of them. Another example: if a toddler doesn't want to eat their breakfast and throws it in the trash, the natural consequence is they don't get a fruit snack. For the dishes example, the true natural consequence is the cook now has to make a meal without those clean dishes. If the dishes remain dirty long enough, the home will become overrun with bugs. Who's realistically responsible? The homeowners who are likely the parents. For the breakfast example, the natural consequence of not eating breakfast is being hungry before lunch, not not consuming a fruit snack. The natural consequence of consuming a fruit snack instead of eating breakfast is putting on weight/not being full/feeling unhealthy, etc. Especially for a toddler, the natural consequence is they might scream and cry because of hunger pains. Realistically, the ones who are punished the most are those forced to listen to the screams, which is probably the parents. So, it seems from my perspective that the natural consequence might be a little too adult for children unless you all have a different perspective. Tell me if it's really effective and what are the examples that have worked.
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