Hi parents, I'm a 20m who has decided to get my little sister, 9, out of my parents house. She's being severely neglected and emotionally abused. Our mother is a terrible person, she physically and mentally abused me and my other sister, 17, until we moved out. After the holidays, some unnice comments were made and the house was a terrible disaster. It smelled like dog poop, pee, spoiled food, and trash was everywhere. It was terrible, they ripped up the carpet so there's no carpet and 9f is always wearing dirty clothes and I suspect they're not making her shower. CPS has been called four times and they won't do anything about it. I'm at my wits end and me and my partner has decided to get our shit together to get custody of her.

My only concern is how will I know if I'll be a better parent/caretaker of her? I've been doing some reading but I'm afraid I'll turn out like my parents or I'll make her transition to a different area harder on her. I know we can meet all of the basic needs; clothes, food, clean house, etc but I am afraid I won't be able to help her grow emotionally. Was there anything y'all did when you were preparing for a child? Sorry if there are too many questions. I just don't know where to start.