just as a preface, I’m not meaning to hurt anyone’s feelings or single anyone out. I just think that there’s a lot of toxic positivity right now (social media and public discourse) around “finding your person“ and just investing in yourself, working on yourself, going to therapy, and then hoping that the right person will just enter your life with some combination of wellness and community and professional success. And we all know that dating over 40 is abysmal and it’s really hard to find soul energy going through everything in life completely alone, in a world that incentivizes, encourages, validates having a family and being partnered. So I’m curious of what point or age did people who are currently over 50 without partners confirm that they probably would never find anyone and when was the point of no return, effectively? It would help to know this because if the warning signs are already there for me I could set my expectations appropriately and start to invest in a completely different life path and maybe get a dog.