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Just came back from a family gathering and half of the family hates my guts. I have to endure being ignored and getting vague backhanded comments so all the fun. Even 30 minutes with these people is too much.
Whilst I pretend to be OK (trying not to freeze up) I feel like an emotional mess afterwards. I feel like cursing and crying. My therapist says it's normal to feel angry when people insult you and overstep your boundaries. I wish I could still stuff my feelings down but I can't anymore.
How do NTs deal with having to fake it without feeling like you sold your soul?
Why choose to spend time with folks who don't like you?
My time is precious, moreso than money. You can get lost money back; you can't get lost time back.
If I am in a situation where I came for folks who love me, and there are folks who hate me at the same event, I avoid them. I don't give them my time or attention. I am polite, but that is it.
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If it was a smaller family event, I would say, "I am sorry, I have other plans" (the other plans being I plan to be around people who are nice to me or be by myself).
If it was super important to my SO, I might go for their sake. One of the joys of being am adult is that you can say no. 🤷🏾♀️