So I'm a guy in my late 30s. I'm happily married, kids, house, etc. I'm tertiary educated and had a couple of different careers. I've travelled, I've pursued interests, and I've developed myself as a person.

The thing is I don't really get enjoyment out of much these days. That rush of excitement I would get from doing something I enjoyed isn't there anymore. Some things I would find enjoyment in would be from simple things like food, hanging out with friends, having fun with my wife; it could have been sex stuff, and I've been able to explore my sexuality with myself, my wife, and in the last few years otherwise as we've had some very honest conversations; I've pursued some big life goals like big extended adventures abroad, an off-grid project, and some other things; and I got right into outdoor adventure stuff life hiking, UL camping, rock climbing, and whatnot.

None of these things really get me going like they used to. I feel like I've done all of the "things" (education, relationship, family, career, financial, personal, and recreational) and that there's nothing really left for me to do. All of life's accomplishments have been done, not in a check-list kind of way, but in doing some reflecting I realised most of life's big decisions and accomplishments have already happened.

I say this as someone who has truly pushed themselves. I've travelled solo and put myself in some weird situations that have challenged me. I've built a tiny house from scratch, pretty much by myself, with no experience, and taught myself the skills required. My marriage with my wife has been through some big things and we've emerged so strong and loving together. I've embraced my sexuality as a bisexual guy, addressed my internalised issues, broached it with my wife, this has lead to me and us challenging our relationship with sex and sexuality, and I've since pushed myself in this department. I've hiked solo in remote places, I've learnt to rock climb, and I've pushed myself physically and mentally in challenging situations in the outdoors. I could go on...

At the end of doing all of this stuff; all of the personal, professional, interpersonal, "spiritual", and physical things; I don't feel like I have much to look forward to anymore, and the greatest hits from what I've already done don't elicit the same response as when I first did them. I don't really enjoy them much anymore. Not in the sense of not liking them, but I'm just indifferent and a little bored by them.

So I guess what I'm asking is what am I supposed to do to enjoy my time here? Why bother getting up in the morning? (because I genuinely don't feel like it, and sometimes don't) Has anyone got their spark back, and how?

(tagged as "mental health" but I have no idea what to tag it as tbh...)