NEED ADVICE

So I’ve (31M) been dating this woman (29F) for almost 6 months now. I thought everything was going really well, we met each other’s family for the holidays, but last night she starts saying that she isn’t sure about us because I don’t offer to pay for things like her getting her nails done, getting waxing, etc. Says she doesn’t feel “safe” in instances where she is struggling to pay for these things and I haven’t offered. Also added that people in the past she has dated offered to pay for her nails for example after two dates.

To be clear, I make a good living in finance, own my house (we don’t live together), and paying for the things I described above are feasible. I guess I just wasn’t offering as I) we haven’t been dating for that long and II) she owns a business and has an income.

She then extrapolated this to if we were to get married, that she would want to be effectively SAH parent and wasn’t sure I’d be able to provide for us. We had discussed in the past my preference that the mother of my kids, whoever that is, would be able to be SAH initially but eventually I’d want them to work again. She previously seemed okay with this but last night seemed like she wasn’t.

So as the conversation went own she basically was saying that if we weren’t on the same page in terms of money then we shouldn’t continue the relationship, that she had been in a 4 year relationship previously that she knew year 1 wasn’t going to work and didn’t want to make the same mistake.

TBH I was blindsided by this conversation and thought we were falling in love. Now I feel like she’s ready to just move to the next guy if I don’t agree to this arrangement, which is pretty heartbreaking. Personally I would not even imply I wanted to break up over a disagreement like this, and I said I felt that for her to even say that indicated this is a situation where I like her more than she likes me. She in a roundabout way agreed, which was also heartbreaking.

Just needed to type this out. Everything was almost too good until this conversation, but feel like the proverbial mask slipped with how she went about this conversation. What would you do? Feel deep down if I have any self respect it’s over but want other people’s opinions.