My wife kept putting off having kids. Kept saying she wanted them, but later. There were plenty of good reasons. Grad school, getting comfortable with her career, etc. But once the good excuses ran out and she floundered with diminishing believability before admitting she never really wanted them, but just hoped she'd feel it later to not lose me.

I now find myself divorced at 35 feeling utterly perplexed at how to actually move forward with finding, evaluating, and feeling comfortable with a partner to have children with. Don't get me wrong, it's easy to find women to date. I just can't help but constantly think I am sinking too much time into one person and fear I'll get another few years down the road with someone before finding myself in the exact same situation. And beyond that, it just seems really intimidating/impossible that I'll stumble upon someone I want to spend the rest of my life with in the next few years, independent of the procreation element.

I guess this isn't the most specific question, but I am just feeling a little lost when it comes to moving forward with a new partner and wondering what advice you all have for someone in my position.