There’s a guy I was seeing casually a few months ago. We had sex a few times. Then for a few reasons we pulled back and haven’t seen each other in awhile though we’ve stayed in touch via text here and there.

He suggested hanging out again and implied he’d be interested in being sexual again. I said I would also love to hang out again. I didn’t address the sexual implications.

I’m not sure if I’m going to want to hook up with him again. I feel conflicted about whether I should tell him in advance how I’m feeling or just feel out the situation and decide in the moment. I know he will be ok if I say no but he would be driving quite a ways to see me and I don’t want him to feel like I wasted his time (even though us hooking up is not the explicit purpose of him coming to see me). There’s also the possibility that I drive to see him.

So I’m curious, guys, what would you want a female friend/previous hookup to tell you (or not tell you) in this situation?

(Fwiw…and I’m not sure it matters…but the sex was just meh. We didn’t really talk much about it so he might have felt differently about it)