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My (32F) ex (38M) broke up with me suddenly about 6 months ago, saying that he suddenly had a dream to spend a lot of time travel the world and realized he would regret not doing it. He couldn't tell me how long he would be gone and didn't ask me to go with him, but said he would be gone potentially for a long time. I was upset and confused and felt like he didn't value more or consider me a real partner so we broke up. Prior to this, he had always said how important having kids was to him. After we broke up, I asked him how is dream of having kids fit into his decision to suddenly break up with his girlfriend and start traveling the world at nearly 40. He told me that age was different for men because he could date women in their early 30s so didn't have to worry about aging out of having kids.
This whole breakup has been confusing and upsetting for me. It came out of the blue and has really hurt my self esteem and made me feel like a placeholder. His comments about women's age have also upset me. Men who want kids, how seriously do you consider the age of women that you date? What's the oldest that you date? Will men who want kids soon view me as too old even if they are 3 years older than I am?
Fair, but I’ve been automatically logged in for over a decade now- I made it as a teenager
Most 22 year old women are not with 30 year old men.
Younger women want men around their age for better chances as well. It’s harder to conceive with a older man than with a younger one
Nope men’s fertility starts to decline at 30. Old sperm Also does more damage than old eggs.
This is simply false. I also know plenty of women with healthy kids had in their 40s
Yep my aunt struggled to have kids with her 46 year old husband then her husband divorced her and she went for a guy in his late 20s (who married her) and now she has 3 kids.
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It is a 1% chance after 40, and that’s much higher than under 35, but it’s still pretty unlikely. There are a ton of things that can go wrong with birthing, from death of child to death of mother and everything in between. Chances of problems go up with different geographies, incomes, races, ages, weights, and family histories- I totally get having a red line, but there are so many factors to consider that my decision would be context dependent. I hope you get what you’re looking for, but I would also consider that issues can and do occur earlier and often don’t occur later, probabilities are weird