Hi, for the past couple of months ive been suspecting my husband might possibly be up to something he shouldnt be. He had been talking about his female coworker "friend" a lot, taking her home after work without bothering to tell me a couple of times and thwn their workplace started some "rumors" of them being together, he told me about it and it made me uncomfortable (because in my head you're around each other an awful lot to be in rumors) and she showed up about midnight one night with her baby and a couple of guys randomly when my husband got off work. I usually dont get into his phone and let him gave his privacy (because hes done questionable things in the past, i can elaborate on if need be) but i got into his phone and read a couple of messages he had deleted between them, and by the time i saw them i missed who knows how many, but i remember one with her calling him sexy and him saykng thank you. (see below) 9/5 Him: ummm lemme ask you a question? Ill ask later, its a delete question lmao Seen hubs up here shopping i may wait to ask. 9/6 Him: im sure you have an idea what im gonna ask 9/18 Her: ah old bones Him: all but one 9/20 Her: your shoes untied Him: tie them for me, and when your down there ... Her: omg Yes Him: wait what? Frfr Her: maybe Him: i do t think it's that much of a maybe Her:haha smirk react emoji Goo Him: thats the after party and bring a towel

...do guys joke like this with their female friends? Do i have a right to be suspicious? I got into a deep depression and i stated my concerns and of course im overreacting.  After that he started being more lovey dovey a little (after almost no/minimal intimacy except for sex) and i got mentioned how he was "acting different" and he looked at me and started laughing (thats usually what he does when i know hes lying) fast forward about a month. I show him a post on facebook and then he brings it up again and is laughing a little then too. Ever since i voiced my concerns (not telling him i saw his phone) they havent texted much but she calls him and i know most of the tome they are talki g and not texting and he doesnt mention her much now. Just would like some opinions and advice. Thanks and sorry its so long, was gonna post the screens but it wouldnt let me