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Hi, im asking for advice reguarding this. Me and my husband have been married 14 years (36f/ 43m) and all the romance seems to be dying for him. The little things, like holding hands, showing public affection, even embraces and eye contact a lot of times. Intimacy has become me initiating it and a bit mundane now, he used to be very adventurous and spontaneous not just in the bedroom, but with everything.. i asked him last night why it wasnt like that anymore (im feeling pretty insecure lately wont lie) and i just dont understand why but he said he isnt sure why. Keeps assuring me it isnt me or something i did etc, but, is this normal? I dont want to overthink as i tend to do sometimes but i could use some advice please, thank you all.

-recently ive lost close to 50 pounds this last year and its because of lack of appetite but ive also been working out at home and lifting weights trying to tone up, be healthier etc. He doesnt ever give me compliments about my appearance, being a good mom/wife, appreciation for anything i do for him, and the way he acts i dont feel wanted.. we are still intimate but i want to try new things because i kmow men and even women like variety and get bored, ive learned a new trick in the bedroom recently he loves but all the passion we had, is gone. I try and try i promise but he isnt returning and it hurts. (WHY is the question)

I dont want to make it sound like hes an awful person, hes not and takes care of us and is a great dad to our 3 year old. Im also looking for work in a dead town but im trying. Money is a big stress for everyone but it is a part of ours