I'm separated from my wife, we're going to get divorced in a few years when the timing is right. We're both on the same page about that. I'm not really in a place right now where I want to jump into another serious relationship, and honestly the experience with my wife has put me off marriage in general.

I've gone back into the dating pool, and given my situation, I don't want anything too serious. I tell the women I'm dating this up front, that I don't want anything serious and that will not likely change. She'll say okay and we'll start seeing each other casually. But then at some point she'll try to flip us into a serious relationship - start talking about future plans, moving in together, all that stuff. And then I have to remind her that I don't want a serious relationship, and she almost always takes it badly. She can't understand why, even though I explain my feelings multiple times. A lot of times she blames herself, like she wasn't good enough to make me want to be serious with her.

I dunno what to do at this point. I tell them up front, I tell them during the relationship, I tell them if I think they're catching feels. Doesn't seem to matter. They never believe me. Is there any way to truly keep things casual?