My boyfriend (30) and I (25) have been together for 1 year and 8 months. I proposed the idea of living together a while back and he's finally started considering it more seriously. My lease ends in June, but I have no more financial obligations to my landlord, so I would like to move out the sooner the better (my living situation is borderline intolerable). We live in NYC.

He has the following concerns: - Financially, he may not be ready for a mid-April move in date - Lack of alone time - He's never lived with a previous SO in the past, so he's apprehensive - He's content with his current living situation and isn't in a rush to change it

We spend our weekends together, and as of late, a couple full weeks together to test the idea. We get along very well and I think we'd be compatible cohabiting.

I've been starting the hunt, both for myself (room shares) and for potential places for us. He says he's open to looking at places together, but I think that'd be fruitless if he doesn't have a decision made yet.

I told him that I'd like to move out of my apt by mid-April latest, and that if he wants to live together, he needs to let me know ASAP so I can start seriously planning on my own if that's the case.

He keeps saying he's still thinking. It's beginning to frustrate me, although I respect his time to decide. I know it's a big decision. And I also know he's apprehensive about telling me 'No' and having it be a point of contention. But, I'd rather know either way, the sooner the better. No blows need to softened in this practical decision. Hopefully I'll have an answer this week.

How have your own situations with a SO played out?

Thanks for sharing.