Wife here. I’m thinking far ahead right now, but in May will be my first Mother’s Day. My MIL is very kind but we have some boundary issues there. Over the years, my husband has gotten much better at setting boundaries but ofc it’s still his mother and he loves her dearly.

One Mother’s Day a few years ago was one of the times I felt the worst in our relationship. We had to move apartment and we had so much packing. I decided not to go home to my own mother because we had so much to do and he spent all day with his mother. I of course allowed him to spend Mother’s Day with her but he way overstayed, due to usually his mom’s guilt trips about people leaving and he left me to deal with all the packing. That’s not normal for our relationship anymore but it hurt so bad.

I want to do what’s fair because he will have to choose between us on that day. I don’t want to spend time with his mom. I would be generally happy to spend time with my mom by myself without him but it’s my first Mother’s Day and I don’t know how I feel about that.

Our baby will only be about 5 months as well if that matters.