i just got out of a relationship where i suffered with trichotillomania (hair-pulling) the whole time and it progressively got worse. i could tell it hurt my ex to see my confidence go down, and when you become so insecure and start seeing yourself as unloveable it feels almost impossible to stay in a relationship. he was very comforting a lot of the time, but most of the time he would get mad at me for pulling and say “stop dude you’re literally bald” which made me feel so much worse and didn’t help me stop at all. as a woman, i feel like i can’t be the kind of girl any man wants to show off or look at or even desire because of this disorder. there’s also a sense of grief because i used to be desirable when i still had my hair, and now i’ve lost that charm.

i guess i have a few questions as well as the one in the title; how many men out there would be able to look past something like this when interested in someone? should i give up on the idea of being with a man until i overcome this disorder and regrow my hair, if i ever even do? am i overthinking all of this?

i don’t know, i hope this is the right subreddit to ask. i specifically want to hear a man’s perspective and experience so i didn’t know where else to go.