Obviously the relationship is one where you’d likely never have any interaction were it not for the daughter/spouse connection.

I’ve always done very well with mother in laws, but the fuckin fathers are chilly! I’ve kept the content light (e.g. good skiing weather in XYZ), I found the guy an app that tracks airplanes which he’s obsessed with aviation & wasn’t aware of such a service. And I’ve hosted the in laws several times and done cooking, outings, birthdays, holidays etc.

I’ve never made a scene or any sort of contentious conversation, but it still feels all so chilly. This is especially annoying because the daughter makes shit money, and is stubborn to boot and I basically fund her lifestyle (vacations, good neighborhood etc).

How the fuck do I warm relations with a father in law, and what is the expectation with them in general? FWIW I get along with guys of all generations and have never had trouble making friends.