The back story is quite complicated but here are the main points. Partnered 9 years, married for last 3. I'm 39f he's 38m. Started trying for kids since married. Failed. Then recently he told me he doesn't want kids anymore, he doesn't want to move forward with IVF. I felt betrayed and we had an enormous fight about it to the point he moved out. He still kept calling me every day though and I giving me the hopes he is working on himself and we might be able to iron things out. I foolishly gave in to his advances since I love my husband and I was hoping that if I still sleep with him it will help repair our relationship while if I reject him I will lose him for good. I honestly believed I can't get pregnant naturally (and he did too and so we were told by a plethora of doctors) and it wasn't even the calculated right time in the month - then yet by some miracle exactly now I got pregnant.

I think we were going towards better in our relationship but since this happened it will totally undo all progress we made. He will freak out, he will want me to abort, and I will have to options: - abort and resent him for not being supportive of my dream to have a family - keep the baby, become single mom cut him off and resent him for not being supportive (I am financially independent and don't need his help but I just don't want to raise the child of someone who didn't want it)

I am aware there is no good move here, he's told me that he doesn't want kids before, and I won't force him into being a parent. I also know I will choose option 1: I'm not going to create a child unwanted by 1 parent.

I'm not asking you what to do. I am asking: how to tell him, what words to use, because I just can't find words. When I think of it only tears come from my eyes and I am speechless. I thought I was infertile and getting to peace with it, but now I know I am given this chance and it is really painful to reject it. I need a script to write down and read it to him.