‼️tw‼️ This might not seem like a trigger for most of you, but I don’t want to risk it. I will show my weight in this post, so if that makes you uncomfortable in any way, skip that part.

I (F) am really insecure about my body (especially weight), partly due to past relationships.

I’ll start with height: I’m fairly tall, nothing crazy but definitely above average, 173 cm (5’8). I do feel like I’m too tall for those who are into short girls, but also too short for those who are into tall girls. Of course your height plays a part in what you think is short or tall, but I haven’t meet anyone who thinks I’m short really.

For me height isn’t a dealbreaker, but I absolutely prefer taller guys because I love the felling when hugged by taller guys. With that said, I get that everyone has their own preference and there is nothing wrong with that. So you guys preferring taller or shorter, I won’t blame you for it as I obviously do to.

Do you guys have any limits on how tall/short a girl can be for you to date her?

Now for the weight: I weigh roughly 80 kg (176 lb) and I actually hate my own body. Like I know I’m not extremely overweight, but still a little heavier than I should. I work out a lot so I have some muscle, but I’m definitely a bit chubby. I was even a bit heavier before, probably because I was on the pill and that messed with my body, but I’ve changed to an IUD which has a lot lower level of hormones. So I have lost a little weight after that, but not too much.

▫️Side note: if you have a girl with an IUD, give her some extra love cause that fucker hurts like hell to put in. Also if she is on any other birth control that contains any hormones, give her some extra love as well, it might not hurt but it still messes with our bodies.▫️

Back to the actual post. I’ll try to keep this short. I’ve been in two relationships, first one was okey but I later discovered he was really selfish and never did anything that didn’t give him anything, but I didn’t see it until the very end. He held on to me for way too long because he wanted sex, he didn’t love me anymore. So he made me feel like I was worthless and that I was just something to put his dick in. Then came the second guy, and he messed me up really bad in many ways but I’ll stick to one thing here. He called me fat and said I should lose weight, I should do cardio and I shouldn’t eat this or that. I did tell him before we got together that I was insecure about my body, so he knew it was a sensitive topic for me, but still he could randomly text me things like that.

I feel like guys like when a girl is a size were he can pick her up and basically just throw her around, I’m not that girl.

Is a girls weight important to a guy? And also the combination weight and height, does it matter? Is this all in my head?

I just feel like I’m in this in between area that no one really wants or care about. Sorry this is pretty long, but I just don’t know how to make it shorter.