I was at my friends’ wedding recently and one of the speeches from a different friend of mine said to the bride - “you will always be second to his <sport>”. That got me thinking what is that one thing for me in my life that I put above everyone and everything else - and I’m truly drawing a blank.

Do I have interests and hobbies? Sure, I like to listen to music, I love cars, I like to paint, I like to DJ, but I feel like I just like all of them moderately. I don’t think either of these things for me would be used as that “thing” I would put above my partner even as a joke at one of my wedding speeches.

Any other men relate to this? Did you find your calling later on life? How did you find it?