I have a struggle of finding a relationship with women and making the first move as a man. I was not allowed to date growing up, only had sex once (it wasn’t a woman I knew) and honestly it’s messing up my life in terms of social and my work life.

I have this desire to settle down with a woman that wants me for me, but obviously that’s not the case with women. Most women would like a guy with resources, money, etc. I accepted that I won’t find someone in my life, and as someone my age, I get the urge to want comfort, closure, someone to share my life with. Hell, I have a coworker that likes the same music as me, the same quirkiness as me, down to the point where we had double jointed arms(and she joked that it’s the faith of the universe to meet us up at the workplace)

The question is how do I completely get rid of my feelings, which is finding a partner, wanting a family, wanting to have matching PJs on Christmas morning (you get the picture). I don’t want to steer my work life because I’m a simp, but if any men have any advice to completely shut off my emotions, that will be great, thank you