I’m 32 been with my ex of 7 years, to make a long story short. I did do some bad things to her to mess up our dynamic. She has held on to resentment for a long time. Our relationship got worse, no emotional intimacy, barely time spent together, I ended up becoming lonely as a result of my past relationship and wasn’t happy. She became very disrespectful. I can admit the reason for the dynamic shift was me because I got caught doing things multiple times that hurt her in the beginning of the relationship. However I changed and she was still bringing up the past stuff many years later still.

Got so bad that I was begging and trying to make my relationship work and for us to be happy again. I asked if she wanted to break up and she did.

Months after the breakup I did still try to win her over for months and months. Wasn’t successful so I met a new girl who I have been dating for a month. Now my ex comes back and tells me she loves me and wants to start our relationship again. However I am aware we have to put the negative stuff in the past and restart as if it’s brand new. I do love her but worried things won’t work and I will be screwed getting back with her and leaving my current new girl.

Any advice you can give me as a guy

Torn on what to do, really need that father figure male advice