27 y/o guy here. I have some issues I'm aware of like avoidant attachment and trouble expressing emotion.

But, I think I'm also just naturally introverted and promiscuous.

I'm currently enjoying the single life and have casual partners I have very affectionate sex and even some good conbersation with and it seems to scratch the itch for connection without being too much commitment on my end.

Plus the variety and freedom are so nice

I am cool with them playing the field too since it's not serious and I feel that's fair to everyone

Here's where I'm stuck. I don't feel compelled to settle down.

I've experienced how great relationships can be. My ex was my best friend.

But even then, I always had a wandering eye.

I can't see myself in an open relationship, but I can't see myself being monogamous. And I feel like a one sided open relationship isn't fair.

I also work a ton. I know I don't make time to invest in the people already in my life, let alone a partner.

I also just never feel that drawn to anyone that I develop romantic feelings or think anyone is all that special. Like I'm always sure I could do better.

But, I can't help but feel like maybe I should want to settle down?

I've seen famous people who have gotten to have their pick of women their whole lives and still seem unhappy.

I have heard it's one of men's biggest regrets in old age and that people broadly wish they'd worked less and loved more or whatever

I don't get it. Are you just supposed to settle? Has anyone figured out how to have it all?

Thoughts appreciated