For context, I’ve never had penetrative sex and I’m not the most sexually experienced person. I(F20) am supposed to be seeing a guy(M20) that goes to college with me. I hung out with him last week for the first time and he fingered me but I ended up bleeding and it hurt because it was a bit too rough and fast for me. I asked this question on Reddit a few weeks ago and they told me to tell him to curl his fingers in the moment but that didn’t work because he was curling his fingers after I told him and it still hurt. How do I improve the pain and make it not hurt? It usually doesn’t hurt when I do it. He also ate me out but I’m not sure if I just don’t like being eaten out or if I’m just in my head and worrying too much or if i need to show him how to do that for me. I didn’t enjoy when my ex ate me out too so I stopped allowing him do it. How do I teach him how to give me head if I’ve never gotten head I enjoy and don’t know how I like to be eaten out? Do I just lay there and wait until he’s done to bring it up and say I don’t like how he ate me out? Do I tell him it hurts in the middle of him fingering me? How can I show him how to finger me properly without making him feel bad?

Also how do you teach a guy how to rub your clit and give you an orgasm? With my ex he never learned and I’ve never had a guy give me an orgasm from rubbing my clit. My ex would make me squirt by fingering me everytime though so it’s not like he didn’t care about my pleasure or anything like that. It’s more of when I’d guide his hand to my clit, it’d move a bit and end up on the wrong spot again. Plus I don’t want to make that kind of mess(squirt) with this new guy because we barely know each other. Before I got comfortable with my ex, I would always stop him before I could squirt because I was embarrassed and didn’t want to make a mess and that was also my first time finding out I could even squirt. Should I do this with the new guy too? When I’m close do I just say “ok you can stop what you’re doing I’m about to squirt” What are you supposed to say or do? At a point too he asked me if I was going to cum for him and I said yes but I feel like that put me under pressure and i got embarrassed so I started thinking so I couldn’t cum. He told me he loved hearing my moans and i got embarrassed too. Any tips for getting over feeling embarrassed in sexual situations? I don’t want to come off as shy.

Suggest anything but letting him watch me masturbate, I’m not doing that😭 also, if you have ideas on things to say as dirty talk to a guy please tell me. Things like “Your cock is so big” sounds so cringe to me plus should I still tell him his dick is big even if it isn’t big or would that make things awkward?😭 also I’m not very sexually experienced, he’s the one that’s more experienced. Can you also give me ideas on things to do outside of penetrative sex? He asked me what I like and the only thing I know I like is being fingered and having my nipples sucked. I haven’t done much outside of that so I kind of need new ideas too that aren’t penetrative sex💀