I would like to start this post with a little preface stating that I am not a big fan of placing importance on labels, but I am trying to find a partner and knowing how to identify myself to others is a big help in introducing myself to potential partners.

I have a kind of confusing gender even for myself. I am transfeminine, have been on horomones for five years and had a vaginoplasty earlier this year. But I still present very masc and use It/He pronouns. When I dress fem I feel like a boy in a dress (and like it), and when I dress masc I feel like more of a tomboy (girl in street clothes). I feel like I enjoy being perceived as a boy and a girl at different times but am strongly against being called a man or woman. It feels like my gender ebbs and flows and maybe gender fluid fits.

But back to the problem at hand, when finding a partner I am more interested women and nonbinary folks. Do I belong in sapphic spaces, even though i feel both masc and fem? Im not a man or women but really like being perceived as a mix of boy and girl and i DEFINITELY want to be perceived as afab. I just dont know where I would be welcome to find the people I want to talk to.

I would appreciate any help and insights you lovely people can provide, thank you in advance!