I know you can’t just diagnose bipolar from a Reddit post, and of course we’ll rely on a medical professional, but I’m still looking for your reactions to my experience.

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 5.5 years. She is absolutely wonderful and our time together has been an absolute dream come true. Prior to and during our time together, she has had issues with hypersexuality, depressive episodes, disordered eating, and alcohol abuse.

In August 2023 she started on Lexapro, and then I believe switched to Wellbutrin.

In September to said to her aunt that our relationship was better than ever. We bought a car together and bought a bed together. We extended our lease for another year.

In October she met a guy at AA. He asked her to go on a date, but she told him she had a boyfriend, but she thought she could just be friends with him. She developed an “intense spiritual connection” with him, stronger than anything she’s felt.

Approximately two weeks ago, out of the blue, my girlfriend broke up with me. She had some legitimate issues, though she never communicated those to me. Some of the issues were imagined issues. She was saying things like she “has to listen to her higher power,” that being with me was not in “the plans of the universe” and that she didn’t think we had a “spiritual connection.”

So she breaks up with me, and the very next day, while I’m alone in despair at our apartment, she is having sex with the guy from AA, and they both say “I love you.”

Here’s the deal with the guy from AA. He’s 11 years older than her. He has issues with alcohol AND hard drugs, including meth and heroine. He had a job at a hardware store and got fired. He’s been in jail four times: two for domestic violence (including beating his pregnant girlfriend) and two for breaking and entering. He gave her chlamydia immediately. He posts weird delusional videos on youtube. Within a week he relapsed and went back to rehab.

All this is to say, IMHO this is not just a “rebound” or a “young foolish” decision. This is downright destructive and suggests that she is sick in some way.

Last week her friends and family gave her an intervention, and she has agreed to go to rehab for a month. The facility focuses primarily on addition but also does dual diagnosis.

Does this sound like bipolar to you or could she really be that heartless and destructive? My theory is the SSRIs triggered a manic episode, which caused her to become obsessed with this loser guy and be sexually risky, caused her to become hyper religious, and caused her to discard a healthy relationship.

TLDR: Long-time girlfriend dumped me with no warning, said "I love you" to abusive addict the next day. I think she might be mentally ill.