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Unsure how to go about a 1:1 with my supervisor who is going through shitty times - feeling nervous / anxious [UK]
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I'm in the UK.

I have a 1:1 catch up with my supervisor (who is lovely) next Tuesday. However they are going through a shitty time at the moment (private - haven't asked as it's none of my business and I wouldn't want anyone to do this to me, either). I am on annual leave this week and can't reach my manager at this time.

I'm pretty nervous / anxious about how to go about it. I feel this way due to:

* This being the first time this has happened and I'm unprepared / don't know how to navigate this, because:

* I missed out on my twenties and the platter of social / interpersonal skills & experiences that my colleagues and peers have had during their twenties - and the social cues, interactions and practice / unconscious competence which they've built up along the way

(By comparison I was isolated & abused by my dad and not allowed to make friends / relationships between 21-28 yo until I got out and moved away 2 years ago).

Subsequently, I feel as though big components of my social toolkit are missing and struggle a bit there - I don't put my foot in it, but I lack confidence to navigate some conversations / situations and falter / freeze at times (I am working on improving this). Toolkit components I could really do with right now.

I overthink a lot as well (my supervisor knows this).

My supervisor is brilliant when I'm going through shitty times and I wish I could be the same for them right now. I just don't know how to and petrified of saying something wrong.

How do I navigate this?

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I do apologise for the long post.

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I'm worried I'll look stupid if I ask my manager this on Monday.

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