This is yet another post regarding ethical non-monogamy, and the most common topic that comes up regarding these discussions — Jealousy.

Jealousy is a secondary emotion which grows from the roots of insecurity, fear, and envy. Logically, I can recognize this. However, I cannot seem to emotionally control my jealousy. Every trying to tackle the “roots” individually in my head, things never seem to result in a diminishment of any sort of jealous feelings.

My questions for the community:

1 — What kind of things have come up regarding jealousy in your own personal ENM relationships?

2 — How do you handle them?

3 — Do you ever find that something that you’re fine with one day, can make you jealous the next?

4 — Has post-nut clarity ever made you feel ashamed for liking something in theory that you wouldn’t want to perform in reality?

5 — How do you get your logic (“this isn’t anything to be jealous about”) to combat your fears (“he’s going to have better sex with someone else” / “he’s going to leave me” / “his desire for me will diminish when he gets it elsewhere.”)

Any insight helps! 🙂