After my last LTR, I decided that I’m better as a non-monogamous person. Note- I didn’t cheat and was faithful the entire relationship; i realized this after it had ended. Recently went on a few dates with someone no sex just some making out and I told him I’m non monogamous, not a jealous person at all, like sex and view sex and love as separate but intersecting things, and am monoromantic (not poly). He’s strictly monogamous.

This is kinda a hard boundary for me, but at the same time I could try to be monogamous. Ultimately I think it’s better to find someone on the same page as me, but I’m wondering if anyone has made a monogamous relationship work who doesn’t see them as such. I envision having a husband some day who I’m into and he’s into a lot but we have the freedom and the communication that extracurricular activities are allowed as long as they don’t come before each other.