I made a list of things I wanna do sexually, so I am trying to find a FB/WB so at least I can have these experiences (since I was saving it till I found a bf, but that is probs never happening, given how things are going).

Getting the initial hookup is not too taxing/hard. Put myself at a gay bar, party, or just go on Grindr/Scruff and I'm able to find someone (though the hot guys are very slow to commit on Grindr/Scruff I find vs in person). The issue is there is usually a big gap between the current meet and the next meet.

Once a big gap happens between meets, I become less comfortable going through the things I wanna do with them, as I've kinda lost interest/trust, so its critical for me for them to come back in a reasonable timeframe (1-2 weeks is fine) for me to build the trust mentally to then do the other things.

What I have tried and hasn't worked for me so far:

a) Choosing guys who live within my immediate area, so travel is less of an issue. Oddly, these are the flakiest of the lot.

b) Choosing singles, who don't need to 'commit' to their partner or otherwise, and therefore likely have more time for me. Singles actually seem worse in terms of time management lol.

c) Choosing guys who work in NY so I know they are within the area. However, I find a LOT of dudes are just constantly travelling even if they work locally.

d) Choosing guys who seem more 'keen' towards me (asking for my number, thanking me for inviting them over etc) thinking maybe they will at least come back for sex again relatively fast, but once the first experience happens, they are the first to exit/never really come back/make excuses.

e) Choosing guys who share back what they are looking for and it aligns and/or organising the next mutual meet in person e.g mutual massage or something, but again, post that encounter 'something will come up'.

f) Improving how I look and taking better pics etc to attract more guys, but the outcome has basically been the same.

g) Being proactive and chasing e.g. inviting the guys to a party I'm going to, messaging them on the day if they are free, asking if they are free tomorrow etc, which never really resulted in anything in terms of repeats (mainly works for new encounters).

I'm not ghosted and they do reply, but its very laggy and just not working for me.

Does anyone have any tips on how to secure a *regular* FWB or *regular* FB even?

Or do I pay an escort at this point?