I’m seeking advice and insight on navigating the complexities of an open relationship that has evolved over 13 years. My partner and I transitioned from a monogamous relationship into exploring openness post-pandemic, which has been both thrilling and challenging. I’m confronting two main issues and would love to hear how you all might handle these or have handled similar situations.

1. Dealing with Jealousy Over 1:1s: My partner has developed a stronger interest in 1:1 hookups lately. While I’ve been open to external fun, I realize some individuals feel like a threat to me, while others don’t. How have you dealt with jealousy, especially when it comes to your partner’s desire for more singular experiences? Have you found it helpful to categorize external partners (e.g., “low threat” regulars) or approached it differently?

2. Social Media and Boundaries: My partner is constantly on social media, chatting with other guys. It’s hard to tell if it’s just a pastime or an active search for new partners, and communication on this front is lacking. This constant engagement online is straining our intimacy. Have any of you implemented compromises like designated phone-free times or social media breaks? How do you maintain your connection while allowing space for these digital interactions?

Our journey from 22 to 34 has been filled with love and growth, and I’m committed to navigating these new waters together. However, the balance between freedom and intimacy seems harder to maintain lately. I’m looking for strategies, personal experiences, or any advice on how to approach these challenges while strengthening our relationship.

Thanks for your support and understanding!