I am an openly gay man of 34, engaged to the most wonderful man in the world, who happens to be 26.

His age is not a concern for me, nor is our age gap a concern for him. I am worried about how to better assist him though as I'll describe as best I can in a fair manner below.

He has fluctuated with his weight since highschool, and is currently in a period of gaining. I am a person who is attracted to a fuller bodied guy but it pains me to hear how he thinks of himself inside and out. I believe a lot of this recent weight gain is from him currently working part time and being home more often than not. I try to encourage fun distracting ways to exercise. I do this because he also has ADHD and gets hyper focused on the good and the bad. We spend nothing but time in the kitchen preparing healthy, balanced meals and hardly anytime eating out.

I work full time and of course don't know everything going on when I'm at work or sleeping for the next day. But I have noticed a lot of late night snacking occurring. It's not my place to repremand an adult in their choices but I constantly hear that he isn't happy with his body. We go to the gym regularly together but diet and exercise seem to be taxing on him mentally.

I am and want to continue to be a pillar of support for him to lean on. But does anyone out there know anything more that I can say or do to help him in a journey I unfortunately have no personal experience with? I want to see him happy and thriving always.