Back in January, I submitted THIS POST about a developing relationship between my husband, myself, and a third gentleman that I called John. A couple guys asked for updates, so here it goes.

John came over that weekend. We hung out, had dinner, and fooled around. Hubs and I decided to wait until after the sex to bring up our feelings in case he wasn't feeling the same - I'm greedy.

It really couldn't have gone better. I explained that hubs and I had been having romantic feelings for him and we just wanted to know where he stood. I continued that there was no pressure for any kind of commitment from him, and that if he wasn't also having romantic feelings, that was fine too.

John told us that he had been having romantic feelings for us, but didn't really know what to do with those feelings - a sentiment that hubs and I kept throwing back and forth to one another in the few weeks prior. We all agreed that we'd just enjoy the ride and explore the feelings together.

It has been 6 weeks since our talk. We've continued seeing him every couple of weeks, and we are still texting throughout the day every day. My feelings have grown stronger, as have hubs. I think John's feelings have also developed more, based on the kinds of messages we receive and the language he uses.

John has also become more relaxed around us. His body language and the kinds of questions he asks are both more casual and more intimate. Additionally, he had told us that cuddling isn't really part of his hook up routine and that he doesn't really enjoy it. That being said we now cuddle after sex and actually spent 2 hours cuddling this past Sunday - he even fell asleep sandwiched between hubs and me.

At the beginning of the month, John invited us to his birthday party at the end of this month. We of course said we would be going. I brought up the question of how he'd like us to say we know him to his friends. He was hesitant to engage in that discussion at the time, feeling that it would make more sense to answer the question closer to the party. Is that the modern, gay, polyamorous way of asking "where is this relationship going?"

Post-2 hour cuddle session, we all went out to pickup some dinner. While crossing the street, in a bashful and earnest way, John asked if we were in fact coming to his party. It was clear from his tone of voice and his body language that he wanted the answer to be "yes." It almost felt like he was hoping to go down the road of how he wants us to describe our relationship to his friends at said party. I didn't broach the subject, figuring it probably does make sense to wait until we're a bit closer to the party, if only to see how the feelings develop further.

My only issue with our situation is that his schedule just doesn't allow for us to see him more as he works full time and is in graduate school. Hubs and I both wish we could get together with him more frequently, but it is what it is for now. His schedule should open up a bit more come summer, assuming our relationship doesn't go south!

So in summary (aka TL;DR), things are going very well with our guy John. Our relationship is deepening, despite not being able to see him as frequently as hubs and I would like.