Hello AGB>30,

As the title says, my bf of 2.5 years has not introduced me to his mom. I have been introduced to his daughter, and one of his brothers... but not his mom. At first I thought it was okay since when we first started talking, he told me he and his mom had a broken relationship. The thing is, his mom takes care of his daughter. So he HAS to have some kind of relationship with his mom. Color me shocked when he went on a mini vacation last month and took his mom with him! obviously, I wasn't invited.

I never get invited to anything having to do with his family. Yet my family knows him, and invites him over to their events all the time! That's another thing.... he doesn't really like hanging out with my family. I notice it when they come over to my (I have full ownership) house to visit, and he just goes into the room without interacting much with them.

I guess I'm typing this out to ask for some advice.... but honestly... reading this, it sounds really bad. I keep finding reasons to leave him. I feel like I've given him enough time to "stand up" to his mom if homphobia is the issue here. He says his mom wont take well to him being in a same-sex partnership... but he's 35, has a good job, and his mom needs something he has... his daughter.

I also feel like I bit off more than I can chew. At first, I didn't see an issue with him having a kid. Now I feel much different about it. He has told me he wants to get full custody and have his daughter move in with us.... but that will open a can of worms with his mom.

Idk, has anyone gone through this? My head/intuition keeps saying to leave him.... but my heart keeps saying don't give up on this.