Gentlemen, you've been so helpful in the past, so I'm turning to you again. At the end of August, my husband and I opened our relationship some. Mainly it's been one off hookups. However there is one guy that has turned into a regular thing.

I'm not sure how to define or interpret the relationship. Neither my husband nor I have had a FWB before, so we're not sure if what's developing is a FWB situation or something more romantic. I know the most logical thing to do would be to just talk to this guy. But because of my lack of experience in this area, I don't want to make a misstep and jeopardize the relationship or hurt him.

We'll call the guy John. We've hooked up with John 5 or 6 times since the middle of October - not an overwhelming amount. All but the first rendezvous have started with us hanging out together, whether it be dinner, a movie, or similar. That's friend territory, right?

We've texted with him every single day. I don't mean a "how's your day been?" kind of text. They're usually conversations with at least 60 exchanges between the three of us. I'm horrible when it comes to texting. If I text you back within two days, I'd say I'm on top of it. But this is just a different level of interaction.

My husband and I have started to develop feelings for John. It feels like he has developed feelings for us as well, but it's hard to tell if we're just reading into the interactions with confirmation bias or whether there's something real there. We've received texts from John a few times when he's been drinking that say things like "Wish you were here" and "Miss you." He likes when we use pet names with him. This feels romantic, no?

Are we just inexperienced? Is this just what a FWB looks like? Or is there something else happening here?